In a world that’s constantly demanding more from women — more time, more flexibility, more proof — the quiet desire to be respected can often go unheard. But here’s the truth: respect isn’t something you demand; it’s something you earn — consistently, intentionally, and unapologetically.
Whether you’re leading a team, negotiating a raise, or simply trying to stand tall in a boardroom that wasn’t built with you in mind, earning respect doesn’t start with external validation. It starts with you.
So how exactly do you gain respect?
Let’s break it down.
Be Competent — And Keep Building Your Skills
Competence is the foundation of professional respect. When people know they can rely on you, when you deliver on time, and when your work speaks for itself — trust follows. And from trust, comes respect.
The good news? Competence is a muscle you can build.
You don’t have to know it all. You just have to be committed to learning.
- Take the course.
- Ask for feedback.
- Practice the skills that challenge you.
- Stay curious.
It’s not about being perfect — it’s about showing up prepared, being solution-oriented, and growing with intention.
Set Clear Boundaries — Early and Often
Respect often starts where your boundaries begin.
If you’re always saying yes, staying late, and stretching yourself thin — people may appreciate your help, but they won’t necessarily respect your limits. Why? Because you haven’t clearly shown them where those limits are.
Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re markers of self-respect.
They show others:
- What you value
- What your non-negotiables are
- How you expect to be treated
Set them. Communicate them. Uphold them — even when it’s uncomfortable. People may push back at first, but over time, they’ll learn exactly where you stand — and they’ll respect you for it.
Lead With Integrity — Even When No One’s Watching
Integrity is the invisible currency of respect. It’s not flashy, and it won’t always get you immediate praise, but over time, it builds a reputation that precedes you.
Integrity means doing what you say you’ll do — every time.
- It means keeping your promises.
- It means owning your mistakes.
- It means treating people fairly, even if they can’t offer you anything in return.
When you lead with honesty and consistency, your actions speak louder than your resume ever could.
Respect Is a Long Game
Earning respect isn’t about being liked, loud, or constantly proving your worth. It’s about showing up with competence, living out your values through boundaries, and leading with integrity. Every day. In every room.
So if you’re a woman navigating leadership, negotiation, or team dynamics — remember this:
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Joe Ronaldo
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27 Oct,22Good